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Thanksgiving

By Nate LaClaire —  November 27, 2008 — Leave a comment

I was thinking last Sunday about how my life has changed over the past year and that has led me to several days of consideration about this topic. Some know that on my 26th birthday I was frustrated about where I was in life and set a list of goals to achieve before my next birthday. As August 2008 approached, I became more and more depressed and frustrated by the fact that I still hadn’t achieved most of my goals. Well, my 27th birthday has come and gone and I still haven’t achieved most of the goals on that list. Know what? I still care, because all of the goals will have a lasting and positive impact on my life, but I am no longer mad. I realized on Sunday that while I was focusing on certain areas of my life, something else was happening. My list of goals included reconnecting with one old friend. Aside from that, the goals had nothing to do with friendships, or relationships of any kind. What I realized on Sunday was that God had other plans: to give me the quality relationships that I so much needed. Over the past year, I have formed closer friendships with people that I have known for several years but hadn’t been close to, restored close friendships with people I had drifted away from, reconnected with people I had lost touch with, and formed new friendships. A few days after my birthday last year, someone commented to me about telling my friends something. Although I kept this to myself, I realized at that moment that although I had “friends,” I hadn’t been giving myself time for friendships. I knew people that I would consider friends, but I couldn’t be sure they felt the same way about me. Then there were the people that I knew I could count on as friends to help me out in a pinch, but could they say the same about me? 

No man is an island and I am living proof. Through Facebook and LinkedIn, I have reconnected with those I have missed communicating with. Through church and college, I have built new friendships and rekindled old ones. Meanwhile, I have learned who my real friends were that I was just too blind to recognize. I discovered the true meaning of friendship and learned what a real relationship looks like.

I thank God for what He has done in my life this past year. I pray that I will never again get so caught up in my own list of goals that I miss the work He is doing in my life.

Purpose

By Nate LaClaire —  December 6, 2005 — Leave a comment

The whole idea of a blog is kind of odd… I mean, who really cares what is going on with me, or what I think about the latest legislation? Does anyone care? Should anyone care? Probably not.

I first started my blog back when I left my old job and related lifestyle (more on that some other time) and wanted to provide a method for people to keep up on what is happening in my life. Unfortunately, it’s hard to take time to write blog posts when I can’t find time to do stuff that earns me money or stuff that is required for college. However, I want to do better. If I find something interesting on the web I want to tell the world about it. If I read an interesting verse in the Bible I want to blog it. If something exciting, or neat, or frustrating happens in my life I want to share it with others. As I get more photos of Riley (my cat) or my family I will post those, too.

I have been reprimanded for dropping off the face of the earth… The fact is, I miss my old life. The fact is, if I could undo what I did I just might do it. The fact is, my decision was not a mistake, as God has proven to me time and time again (I’ll share more about that later as well). The fact is, making any decision other than the one that I made would have been a mistake. So, where does that leave me? Still right here trying to piece together a life after the library; trying to retain friendships that were formed while I was at the library; trying to move ahead without leaving that all behind.

Have you ever felt too comfortable with your life? I knew that if I didn’t exit soon I could be stuck forever. Sometimes it seemed like I had grown up at the library. Like it was my second home. Now when I go back it feels odd… Like walking into a place that used to be familiar but is familiar no longer. The same friendly people are there, but it’s not the same. It never will be.

I know that most people won’t care about most of what I post on my blog, but perhaps each thing that I write will be meaningful to some person in some way. That is my prayer. Thanks for reading.